Teresa Ortiz

Keeping Your History with Cancer a Secret is Not a Good Idea - A Conversation with my Cousin



Posted: Friday, November 20, 2009

by Teresa Ortiz
Freelance writer/Speaker

This past week has been one of the most exhausting weeks I have had since my children were little. On the other hand, it has been a week filled with a lot of laughter and great conversation with my cousin whom I haven't had an opportunity to sit and visit with since we were teenagers. My mom caught a terrible cold and needed to take some time off, so my daughter and I jumped at the chance to take her place caring for the children and do whatever cleaning needed to be done. After all, how hard could it be?

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"Teresa, we have some sad news, Laurie has been diagnosed with breast cancer." This news hit me like a brick a little over seven months ago. There is never a convenient time to be diagnosed with cancer, but given the fact that my cousin had a 1 year old daughter and was 8 months pregnant only added to the stress.

I was living in Oregon when this news came, and though we spoke once on the phone, my mom said it's too much for her to take and the best thing we can do is pray for her and for wisdom for the doctors to come up with the best course of action. Along with my mom, who had already been her childcare/housekeeping guru, her parents made preparations to be there when the baby was born and treatment would begin.

After many doctor visits and discussions, it was determined that they would induce labor two weeks early and then three weeks later, begin chemotherapy. Naturally this was a fearful moment, but it was wonderful to hear about how everyone was coming together to do whatever was necessary.

My mom kept me updated on the progress and I was anxious to get to California to visit, but with my husband working away from home, it never worked out. When we made our decision to move, visiting Laurie was my top priority. Although changing dirty diapers, chasing a two-year old around the house, doing laundry while holding a crying baby in one hand, and moping floors was far removed from the sitting around the table with a hot cup of coffee enjoying a peaceful moment vision I had, it was four days that I will cherish forever.

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Laurie was comfortable with us this particular morning; at least I assume she was as she came into the kitchen without wearing the hat that covered her not quite fully bald head, and what was left of her eyebrows. Somehow I knew this would be the moment we talked about "it".

She told me that she feels partially to blame for not getting checked out sooner. "I've had this lump for over 10 years; I was always told it's just fibroids, nothing to worry about." "Even though I felt it growing during the pregnancy, I just figured they would tell me the same thing.anyway, with no history in our family, I wasn't concerned."

As it turns out, there is historyHer grandmother on her dad's side, our aunt my mom and her mom's sister, and a few others. I felt a tinge of guilt as I revealed to her that I had cervical cancer about 12 years ago. Why did we all keep it a secret? We talked about this for quite sometime. Would it have made a difference in how serious each of us took our symptoms I believe so. As we continued to talk, I felt compelled to tell her about the news I received from my doctor the day before we left Oregon .

"Well, I haven't told too many people, but my doctor found a lump that she is concerned about and given my history, she suggested an immediate mammogram." "When I told my doctor about your treatments, she said if it was up to her, she would have it done while I was there in the office." Laurie looked at me intently and said don't put it off. I told her that as soon as I find a job that has insurance I will have it done.

The baby woke from his nap with a fierce cry and Sammy-girl was itching to go outside, so our conversation came to a halt no more words, only thoughts left unspoken the moment was gone.

This is one reason why keeping a personal experience with cancer a secret from family even if it is distant family, is not a good idea. Let it be known, it just might spare a family member from tremendous pain or death. At this point, Laurie's doctor is confident that she will make a full recovery. After months of chemo, she is having surgery to remove what is left of the lump and several lymph nodes after Thanksgiving and radiation treatment will follow. I continue to pray that she will recover and live to raise her children and watch them grow.

It was difficult seeing the sadness in Laurie's eyes as I held her baby boy and did everything she should be having the pleasure of doing. Equally tough was the occasional tear I would see while my daughter was entertaining her two-year old.

Soon Lord, Soon.

Teresa Ortiz

Teresa is an author, a speaker, and the Editor-in-Chief for RMS1437 Publishing. She has been married for 26 years and has three grown children. Her greatest joy is leading others closer to Christ through practical study of the word of God. She prefers using the lighter things in life and a good laugh to make her point, but realizes the darker and deeper things of life must also be addressed. For more information on her available books, or speaking engagements, visit www.teresaortiz.com.
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» left by Jeff Brown
2 years 186 days ago.
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Teresa,
 

You've hit a nerve. Being a cancer survivor of seven years, I have learned so much about it and the deception and greed of the medical and pharmaceutical fields. I hope this information helps you and all that read this. It just may save some lives.

 

First let me say that knowing beforehand that there is cancer in the family may not do the trick. I knew about my aunts who had non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma and did little to nothing regarding the possibility I may get the disease. (It is such a hideous diseas that people would rather ignore it than deal with it at any level.) But when I did, not only was it months and years of misery and desiring to die at times because of the utterly devilish quality of life, but I learned so much of how doctors deceive patients.

 

I asked my doctor what causes lymphoma, he said “We really don’t know.” This from an award winning oncologist at a prestigious hospital. Later I found out more specifically not only what causes lymphoma but what causes cancer in general. And the cause and its cover up may be frightening for some, but it’s a reality.

 

What causes cancer is acidic buildup in the body. At birth children are alkaline or the opposite of acidic. What causes acidic buildup over time? Food. Most of it, and even the best of it. Fruits and vegetables are so full of pesticides to protect them and wax and petroleum to make them look shiny that eating more fruits and vegetables could actually be a death sentence.  Even cleaning with normal water (which in most cases contains numerous poisons, one being lye that actually raises the PH level to more alkaline but it’s done not to save people but the pipes it runs through) has no effect. The pesticides sprayed on fruits and vegetables are actually resistant to rain. It has to be. It’s too expensive to spray every time it rains.

 

But some of the most acidic stuff out there is foods that make lots of companies lots of money. Here’s a few of the most deadly and acidic foods going: soda (ask any police officer what they use to clean up the blood at a crime scene; most will say Coke or Sprite), coffee, sports drinks (especially Gatorade), energy drinks, Perrier on and on it goes.

 

Now you may be asking, why don’t doctors tell us these things? Well, doctors are trained in preventative medicine and the use of drugs. Since the drug industry is so huge, doctors may get discounts and perks if they use the “best sellers” or those that make the drug companies the most money. During my cancer recovery process I was prescribed some anti-biotics which gave me such bad side-effects I thought I was going to die. The doctor's explination to my question "What happened?" "I don't know," he said, "I've never sseen that reaction." Some time later on the news I discoverd that the anti-biotic was being pushed by the drug companies and they knew of it's terrible side effects and knew that there were other anti-biotics out there that could do the job, but none of them could make them as much money as the one that nearly killed me.  

 

Some doctors may know and not tell. When I was sick I remember hearing time and again the various causes and then the big and most pervasive “Well, we just don’t know.” I had two “expert” doctors diagnose an abscess as hemorrhoids that which used to leave me literally screaming in pain for ½ an hour after going to the bathroom.  I finally went to a surgeon who told me what it was and that surgery was needed right away.

As you go through chemotherapy treatments, a most acidic and dangerous procedure (even doctors avoid prescribing it to themselves), the acidic buildup kills cancer cells and other fast growing cells: hair, throat, brain, and others. 
There are other more benign treatments out there that don’t kill the patient oftentimes more than the disease, but since the drug industry is such a big money maker, they push their drugs like they are the only cure. Personally, I avoid them like the plague and since learning of more benign and holeistic methods will never take them again, for anything. For the drugs often have side effects that are just as bad or worse than the thing they’re trying to fix. The bottom line? Patient beware. 

Cancer is on the rise, more and more people are getting cancer. If you live a normal life span you have close to a 70% chance of getting cancer. Look at obesity being so bad that the gov. is stepping in. More kids get tumors at a young age than ever before. What with the advent of fast food in the 70's, acid vegetables and fruit, an environment with excessive electromagnetic energy floating about in cell phones, computers, tv's, microwaves, etc. it only makes sense.  

Well, I could go on and on, but there are a lot of people suffering unnecessarily out there. I don't mean to increase the fear factor, but I'd rather know and dispense the truth than see more and more people suffer. Sorry I rambled on, but this stuff, as you know, is a matter of life and death and people need to know the truth. (I guess I may just write the article than a longer response here ;=)  If anyone would like more information, please contact me.

» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 186 days ago.
188 fans.
Jeff,
 
I so appreciate your response! Thank you so much for sharing a bit of what you have learned by your own experience, it is much needed. My friend gave me a book a long time ago, called "A Cure for Cancer" it is all about alternative medicines. Chemotherapy is such a personal decision and you are right, the more we know ahead of time, the better we are equipped to make our choice. I know what we eat has so much to do with the increasing numbers of cancer.
 
Again thanks, and I am so glad you are doing much better now. Blessings to you and yours! Teresa
» left by Ken McCreless
from Event Horizon
2 years 185 days ago.
My heart goes out to your cousin, and the family. How sad she must endure this, but, how blessed is she to have such a caring circle of folks.
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 185 days ago.
188 fans.
Thanks so much Ken, I appreciate your thoughts and prayers. You are always in mine :-) Blessings, Sis
» left by Michael Ramzy
2 years 185 days ago.
49 fans.
My thoughts and prayers to your cousin and the family. Thanks for sharing this very personal story.
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 185 days ago.
188 fans.
Hi Michael, you are welcome and thank you for the thoughts and prayers we appreciate them. Blessings to you! Teresa
» left by Brianna Popsickle
2 years 185 days ago.
Thanks for sharing your story with us Teresa. Many more prayers are now with your cousin because of it. Cancer touches us all at some point it seems, I think it helps when people can share their experiences and knowledge as you and Jeff (in his comment), have done. Thank you.
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 185 days ago.
188 fans.
Thanks Brianna - your support is appreciated. I do think it is an encouragement to others when we share our lives with others. I too appreciate Jeff's input. Blessings! Teresa
» left by Marijo Phelps
2 years 185 days ago.
143 fans.
Your RN is sending you an e-mail..... this is a wonderful piece and I hope I read part of it incorrectly.... Marijo
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 184 days ago.
188 fans.
Thanks Marijo, no - you did not read a part of it incorrectly. Talk to you soon :-)
» left by sue thom
from nj
2 years 185 days ago.
hi t,
 
my mom had breast cancer, and in went into remission, but when she got it back 6 years later, she didn't tell anyone. i don't know if it would have made a difference, but i do know that i would have spent more time with her. i was trying to take care of 2 little kids, and a house, an hour away. she kept her wheelchair in the trunk so no one saw it. this my father told us after she passed. i hope your cousin comes out of this free and clear, and can take care of herself and kids.
 
thanks for sharing,
 
my best,
 
sue
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 184 days ago.
188 fans.
Hi Sue, thank you for the comment. Taking time together is so important. I do think we think we are sparing our loved ones pain, but in actuality I think we rob them of the opportunity to take part and be a blessing to us. Like what you shared about time with your mom. Unfortunately, with cancer so widespread, I do think its time we open up about it. Thanks again for your input. Blessings to you! t
» left by Nenita Wells
2 years 185 days ago.
298 fans.
Hi Teresa. Your article is a suggested reading of the Reader's club, so here am I reiterating what I said previously that we are closest to God during the toughest time of our lives. What we all can do is pray. With prayers, ~Nenita~
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 184 days ago.
188 fans.
Thanks again my lovely friend :-)
» left by Edward Rhymes
2 years 184 days ago.
68 fans.
Thanks for this informative and blessed read sister. My family will remember your cousin in our prayers and I am glad that you came through your bout with cancer successfully.
 
Blessings to you Teresa.
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 184 days ago.
188 fans.
Thank you Edward, we covet the prayers :-)
» left by Marijo Phelps
2 years 183 days ago.
143 fans.
Reader's Club and I still like this piece. I am also wondering why others didn't see all that I saw - man, oh, man. Praying for your family in this whole thing T. Marijo
» left by Clairessa Renken
2 years 182 days ago.
13 fans.
Thank you for writing this article. Your right you shouldn't keep it a secret from family because they are the best support. Prayer also goes a long way when people bind together.
» left by Teresa Ortiz 2 years 182 days ago.
188 fans.
Hi Clairessa, what a beautiful name. Welcome to Searchwarp! I don't believe I have seen you around before. I'll be sure to read your work. Thank you for the wonderful comment. I agree and prayer is also what binds people together. Blessings to you! Teresa

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